"Separation!" - Or not?: Watch out for the following signs!
Separation: Many couples know the situation: They wonder whether their relationship still makes sense. Here it is completely irrelevant how long both have been together. In some relationships, the signs point to "separation" much earlier than in others. Not to forget: The large number of couples who manage to actually implement the motto "Till death do us part".
Many queers have also had to realize in the past that they might be better off without their partner. The initial grief and pain of loss is often inevitably followed by a feeling of freedom. And those who are honest with themselves may have already realized that "it just didn't fit anymore".
But what signs actually indicate that it is time to at least reconsider the existing relationship? The following five "red flags" should at least draw attention. Maybe there's more to it than just the occasional desire for change?
Sign #1: The desire to go anywhere...but home
The thought of having to go home after a thoroughly stressful day spoils your good mood? In this case, it's important to ask yourself what this aversion to your own four walls might be. Perhaps it's your partner after all? Admittedly: Over time, the desire to always be together can wane. However, it should not evaporate completely over a longer period of time.
Sign No. 2: Blasphemy about the partner
Surely it's a lie when people claim to really love every trait of their "better half". Just about every relationship has one or two points of friction that cause storm clouds to gather. And to a certain extent, it's also normal to talk about this with your best friend.
However, if the whole thing degenerates into blasphemy, it's time to become light-hearted towards yourself.
Sign No. 3: A deep sense of sadness that is often difficult to justify.
Many people who are unhappy in their relationship often unconsciously transfer this to their entire life. This means that their stress level continues to rise. At the same time, the people in question become more and more sensitive and react increasingly irritably - even to trivial things. Since they are often unable or refuse to see the actual problem in their relationship, they find it difficult to pinpoint everything.
The fact that the cause was an unhappy partnership often only becomes apparent to them after the breakup. Because: Afterwards, they often manage to face the challenges of everyday life in an impressive way (and without much effort).
Sign No. 4: The desire for sex continues to wane
In the context of a more or less pronounced love life, it would certainly be wrong to go by statistics. There is no secret recipe that would tell how much sex a happy couple should have in everyday life. Some feel comfortable having sex only once a month, others love to have intercourse several times a week.
It is particularly important in this context that no one is disadvantaged with regard to the question of frequency. Or in other words: Ideally, both have the same ideas about what is considered "satisfactory" in the truest sense of the word and what is not.
Sign No. 5: Tolerated cheating without feelings
Those who have entered into a monogamous partnership often react sensitively to any flirting activities of their partner. And even though it would certainly be wrong to accuse a person who does not feel jealousy of not loving, there is a clear limit.
At the latest when cheating is tolerated completely without emotion and one partner may even be happy because he can spend the evening alone due to the affair of the other, it is time to just have a clarifying conversation.
In addition, it should be mentioned at this point that there are also many open relationships within the scene that function smoothly. However, those who know that they are actually faithful and also expect this from their partner, at least in a happy relationship, have other ideas about the "perfect everyday life".