"I haven't felt like having sex for a while... I'm definitely A Sexual!" - Surely there are some people to whom this sentence has already gone through the head. First of all: It is absolutely normal that every now and then there is a lull in bed, because simply no real mood may arise. Only the very few always have desire.
A Sexual persons are characterized, however, by the fact that the interest in sex, tenderness and Co. goes in most cases towards zero. They don't force themselves to live abstinently, don't feel any desire to sleep with their partner (or any other person), for example. And that is exactly why they are very often misunderstood.
Especially in a relationship with an A sexual person may not feel desired by the respective partner. It is then especially important to focus on one important factor: Communication. No person should sleep with another person out of compulsion or an expectation.
What are the types of A Sexual?
A Sexuality can manifest itself in different ways. Some affected persons generally have no desire for sex, tenderness and masturbation or masturbation. However, for some individuals, A Sexuality does not mean, for example, having no desire for orgasms.
Many love to satisfy themselves, just do not feel like having sex with a second person.
Therefore, it is simply not possible to speak of a "typical A sexuality". This type of orientation can also be expressed in different ways. However, most people in this group have one thing in common: they absolutely cannot understand why so much of today's world has to revolve around sex.
When do you realize that you are A Sexual?
At the latest when the desire for sex fails to materialize over a longer period of time, many ask themselves whether the "problem" could perhaps lie in an existing A sexuality. A discussion with the family doctor can help here. As a first step, he or she will check whether there is a physical cause for the lack of desire.
Stress can also be the reason why other things are currently perceived as more important. The psyche plays an important role in topics such as desire and passion.
Once physical and psychological causes have been ruled out, the suspicion that Person A might be sexual can often be narrowed down a little better.
It is not "sick" to be A Sexual!
Shockingly, many people use the term "A sexual" as a swear word. Sometimes even when they've been turned down by another person and there "can't be any other reason for the rejection!".
But: A Being sexual does not mean being sick, of course. A Sexual people represent an important (and not small) part of the LGBTQIA+ community. Just like other queers, they know how hard it is to come out and to be confronted with prejudice of various kinds.
In summary: A Being sexual is not a disease! BUT: There are some physical and psychological causes that can reduce the desire for sex. Therefore, as a first step, it is important to get to the bottom of the reason for the unwillingness. If it turns out that physically and psychologically everything is fine, it is time to try to understand yourself better and better. Interestingly, many people even find it a kind of relief to have "finally" found a word for what moves them so much.
Asexual has nothing to do with no desire for sex or cuddling.
Great post!