It would certainly help some who are just at the hurdle to come out, if we simply give them some insights into our stories here. Where, how, when were you able to come out? Let's help the others together, encourage them, but also give them food for thought about what to consider. I am not the only one who is curious to hear how you fared. You are also welcome to tell us what happened inside you. How did you feel? Did stones fall from your soul? What changed after you took this step? We would be happy to receive many helpful reports about your experiences!
Until 3 years ago, my friends did not know that I'm nen BiBoy and that I knew this since I was 14 years old, since I was in a long relationship with a woman until then the last 20 years, for me personally that was not an issue, after the separation I announced it that I'm looking for women nu net but look around for men, I honestly did not care who takes it as I do not change as a person and it had not arisen before what I have changed nu, my circle of friends and my family has taken it very positively and accept and respect my orientation.
It's really exciting. That it was so easy for you Respect
I didn't dare for a long time but at a certain point I knew it would be wrong to keep it a secret. I had an affair with a work colleague and actually we both wanted more but we were both afraid of how our parents would react. Well the end result was that I didn't take the step. He did and that disappointed him so much that our relationship never came to fruition.
However, it has opened my eyes that as long as I do not stand by myself as I am, others will not either. So I went a few years later the way then but and since then the dating and introducing men to my family has become much easier. With my father it took a little longer until he had digested this news but he has and since then our relationship is better than ever before.
I just do not dare. On the Internet I'm really open and much flirting and so but hand on heart my family is anything but open to the scene. Everyone thinks I'm straight and have a girlfriend. Does anyone here have any advice on how I can confess to my family? Am grateful for any advice!
Hi
I'm now also at the point, so what if someone notices.
Only in front of my mother I came out, that trans* for me also come into question for relationship...
Both also, I confessed to her to possess also homosexual inclination... Which I suppressed for a long time....
That's why I am interested in making friends with men(s) ...
As long as I don't start having constant ONS with changing partners, I have their blessing....
I was extremely surprised when I came out to my children, work colleagues and friends. Everyone was very positive towards me. I was together with my deceased wife for 30 years, now she has been dead for 8 years and I came out very late that I also like men. During the breaks at work I'm often together with lots of work colleagues, my boss always says to me, well, you're back together with your hair 🙂.
My conclusion: it was the best thing I could have done to come out
simply done but everyone knew it was probably too conspicuous. haha
My coming out was not so pleasant.
I didn't have a girlfriend for a long time, not until I was 32. When I was 17, the neighbor's son, who was 8 years older, gave me gay books to read, then at 27 I moved to Lausanne and the neighbor's son from my parents' weekend house, who was 8 years older, also lived there. I had known him since I was 4 years old. I also talked shop with him about classic cars.I told him that I had ordered gay videos because I was so surprised at what two men were doing and then he told me that when they came, he would like to watch them with me.Then we watched them together and that's when it happened. A wonderful, discreet friendship developed, which pleased both of us. He told me he was also bisexual until February 2004. When I met and fell in love with my first wife in 1992 at the age of 32, the secret relationship with my colleague remained. I'd go to his place from time to time and we'd have something to eat for dinner, then we'd watch various gay videos and so on.
Dec. separation from 1st girlfriend.
Coming out to my old Opel and Ford colleagues in Dec. 2003, because I thought some of them were like me. They've been avoiding me ever since.
In 2004, I came out to my parents about the neighbor's son. It wasn't so pleasant either, because my mother always had an aversion to homosexuals.
I had to take my parents to the neighbor's son to discuss things. My parents had a good relationship with his parents, which broke down. I had to answer to the neighbor's son's father.
I've had a girlfriend since July 2010, now a flatmate. I kept her secret from my mother for over 6 months. I told her about my bi tendencies because my mother wanted to tell her. She always says a little bi doesn't hurt.
When I introduced my girlfriend to my mother, my mother wanted to tell her. Then my girlfriend told my mother that she knew. My mother was shocked.
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Oh good for you that your friends and family have responded so positively.
I never really came out of the closet, everyone kind of knew from the start that I wasn't that into girls 😇