When the upcoming coming out puts a strain on the psyche...

In the meantime, there are many people, including celebrities, who are beaming with joy in public about their coming out. They often describe the decision to publicly announce "Yes, I am queer!" as a very personal liberation that has helped them to be themselves.

Every now and then, however, the fact is forgotten in this context that coming out is in most cases a process that is characterized by ups and downs. There are many people who suffer from enormous mental stress because they are afraid of the reactions of their environment, for example. In quite a few cases, worries of this kind are unfounded. However, this does not mean that it is possible to simply wipe them away. The human psyche is a special construct that can certainly react sensitively to stress.

Anyone who notices that they cannot cope with the mental strain that coming out can bring in any of its phases should definitely seek help. The following tips are intended to support people who are struggling with themselves during this special time.

Tip No. 1: Be clear about your own feelings

Those who realize that they "might not be straight" often react in confusion - especially when this realization comes largely from now on. Now it is important (even if it is difficult) not to rush anything and instead give yourself enough time to sort out yourself and your emotions. The latter can sometimes differ significantly from one another. For example, some people are happy because they have "finally" figured out why they feel the way they do. However, some are also sad or even angry at themselves.

The "basic rule" is: Only those who have managed to become clear about their own feelings are also able to convey them to the outside world. This also applies to the great challenge of coming out. Therefore, it is important not to put yourself under pressure.

Tip No. 2: The closest circle of friends and family as the first point of contact

There are no standards or guidelines for what a "perfect outing" should look like. However, most people find it more comfortable to open up to their closest friends and family first. People who are close to other people are often able to assess everything a little more neutrally... and can - by the way - also give encouragement.

Ideally, opening up to loved ones is characterized by positive feedback. And that's exactly what gives you courage when it comes to taking the next step and also calling yourself "queer" in public.

Tip No. 3: Find like-minded people and exchange ideas

Even if it may sound a bit theatrical, no one who is planning to come out and is struggling with their feelings is alone. There are quite a few people - even right now - who are wondering how they should deal with their sexuality. Thanks to the Internet, there are many ways to connect with each other to realize that no one has to feel lonely.

Among other things, queers can meet in Chats and in forums and talk about their feelings - largely anonymously, depending on the platform. After a short time, it often becomes apparent that there are many people who are currently going through exactly the same thing. And it is precisely this knowledge that can also support your own psyche.

Tip No. 4: Visit counseling centers for help with coming out

Anyone who notices that they feel absolutely overwhelmed by the situation they find themselves in should definitely not hesitate to seek professional help. In the meantime, especially in the larger cities, there are quite a few Consulting services for queers. People who live in the country and don't want to (or can't) travel that far also have the option of taking advantage of many of the corresponding offers online.

Sometimes, however, just that is not enough. Fortunately, nowadays there are also many psychotherapists and psychiatrists who have focused on counseling queers.

Conclusion (and very important): It's OKAY!

Every outing is individual and should be treated exactly as such. However, one of the most important things to remember in this context is that being queer is okay!

Depending on the values a person was brought up under and the people they are in contact with, it may be difficult to accept themselves during this exciting time. However, this is precisely the first (and also the most important) step.

And who knows? Maybe there will be a time when no one will have to "come out" anymore, because it is absolutely "normal" to be able to live oneself out on the basis of one's sexual identity and orientation.