Tips: Longstanding queer relationship - and prominent examples
Queer relationships: over a long period of time, queer couples had to deal with a lot of prejudice. Many people were of the opinion that same-sex relationships are often not about being together until the end of time. The gay community, in particular, has had to repeatedly rid itself of a sometimes negative image in this context. However, developments around rainbow families show that long-term queer relationships are not a rarity. Among other things, many celebrities also prove that same-sex love, fidelity and everything that goes with it are not mutually exclusive.
But what tips can actually help with this, find happiness in the long term in terms of relationships? The following sections help further and show how queerness has changed over time, among other things, relationship life in Hollywood.
Tip No. 1: Enjoy the "small, private happiness
The two are considered a prime example of a happy and long-lasting queer relationship: Jim Parsons, whom many know as the quirky Dr. Dr. Sheldon Cooper from "The Big Bang Theory," has been married to his husband Todd Spiewak since 2017. Unlike many other couples, however, the two post comparatively little of their private happiness on social media. Only on special occasions, such as their wedding anniversary, can fans enjoy a photo or two. And this seems to be one of the secrets of a happy relationship: Not everyone has to see everything. Those who manage to take a step back to enjoy their little private happiness often have more time for the essentials.
Tip No. 2: Take queerness for granted within a partnership
Queen Latifah is one of the stars who came out comparatively late. She has been together with her girlfriend Eboni Nichols since 2013. But it wasn't until 2021 that she proudly introduced her as "her love. Until then, she kept a very low profile with regard to almost all questions about her private life. Possibly also because she didn't think she had to make an issue out of her sexual orientation? She would not be alone in this. After all, many people wish that at some point in the future it will no longer be necessary to come out.
Tip No. 3: Use opposites as an opportunity for a queer relationship
Some people exclude potential partners from the outset because they fear they do not have enough in common. That the saying "Opposites attract!" can be partly true, Ross Antony and his husband Paul Reeves prove again and again. The two have been together since 2006. While Ross seems to be the witty and bright part in the queer relationship, Paul acts like a calming influence. That exactly this works, they proved once again in 2017. Since then, both are married to each other.
Tip #4: Be ready to take the next step
The fact that queers today unfortunately still do not have the same rights as cis persons should not stop anyone from using the available opportunities. This has been proven in the past by actor Neil Patrick Harris and his husband David Burtka, among others. While Harris plays a real ladies' man in "How I Met Your Mother," among other things, his private life looks different. He has been happily married for many years. In addition, he and Burtka have taken the next step and decided to adopt children as well.
Tip #5: Always stand by yourself
If you were looking for a "typical heartthrob" in the 1990s, you couldn't miss him: Ricky Martin. All the more surprising was the realization that the singer is gay. Even though he apparently struggled with himself for a longer time, the time had come in 2010. He stated that he was proud to be able to say that he was homosexual. His example, and ultimately his happy queer relationship with his husband, show that it always pays to be honest with yourself (and your partner). The two have been together since 2017. They now also have four children.